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The Start of Something Big (con't)
So I eventually landed another asst manager position and would work both jobs at the same time. Now at this time I was still living with Rita but I always planned on getting into my own place by the end of the summer and I planned on being in West Chester for numerous reasons. So with working two jobs and still doing my own business stuff I eventually moved into a house with my right hand man and she wasn't a big fan of the move at all. It was now September and after working out the issue, things looked to be going great. Had two jobs where I was excelling and looking to eventually move forward in due time and my problems in my relationship appeared to work themselves out. I made sure I came back to her place on occasion and tried to do my part to make the long distance thing work. She didn't have a car so of course it was mostly on me seeing as how I was the one who choose to move away. So I did feel more responsible for making sure I was doing my part.
However things started to get sour shortly after our 1 year anniversary at the end of September. We went to AC, for a night and a day, I gave her a very nice promise ring to hopefully let her know that I truly appreciate her and am in this for the long haul. The short getaway was really nice. The thing is I've been in 2 relationship that lasted longer than 3 years so to me 1 year wasn't a big deal, but because it was her and due to her situation, I decided to make it a big deal. Well as I said, shortly after this getaway, things for whatever reason started to go downhill.
On our way back from AC my car was acting weird and would eventually be the starting sign of things to come. Later that week my car clunks out, transmission went. So now I ended up taking public transportation, which was something I thought I would never do again, but hey, you do what you gotta do right. The bad part about this was I just picked up another job a week before we went on our getaway. It was a simple third shift job just to bring in some more money. I'm a workaholic, and I had a game plan and I was working on it to the fullest. So with me now having my car it was hard for me to work all 3 jobs. Outside of that, I had Rita complaining more and more about a number of things. Going through what I was going through at the time could have easily drove a number of people crazy but I relished it as an opportunity to show people how to stay positive in such situations.
My 30-40 minute commute to work by car now turned into a 3 hour commute by bus. My 3rd shift job was literally walking distance from my house but due to my commute time to my other jobs I would eventually have to drop that job. It also took me 3 hours to get to Rita's place as well. Oh yea, she wasn't trying to hear any excuses about us not seeing each other due to me not having my car because, in here eyes, I shouldn't have moved so far away. So on random nights after work I would head to her place. Well some time in October I noticed things are just flat out different with our relationship and I say something about it. Turns out she talking about how we should take a step back and date other people. Of course I'm not trying to hear this, especially after I just spent money I didn't have on that ring to show her how serious I am about our relationship. This really caught me off guard and really pissed me off. She actually was somewhat serious about this and then had the audacity to say she still wanted me to come to her bday party and brunch. I was beside myself to say the least.
Here I am, basically working 12 hour days, out the house at like 6am back in the house at 12am 6 days a week, and now I got this on my plate. After talking about why she felt the way she felt, we came to a decision to try and make it work. Of course most of it once again was on me, but as I say, got to charge it to the game. So mind you I'm paying bills for a place in West Chester I'm continuously at her place trying to keep her happy. I'm still working 2 jobs but not working both as much as I once did due to my transportation issues. I honestly felt like things were crashing before my eyes and there was nothing I could do about it. So when that happens there really isn't any other option but to just pray. So I was heavy in prayer from that point on. Work had its stresses but I never let that get to me, but this relationship with Rita was constantly on my mind and would eventually bring me to a place I thought I would never be in.
To be con't...
However things started to get sour shortly after our 1 year anniversary at the end of September. We went to AC, for a night and a day, I gave her a very nice promise ring to hopefully let her know that I truly appreciate her and am in this for the long haul. The short getaway was really nice. The thing is I've been in 2 relationship that lasted longer than 3 years so to me 1 year wasn't a big deal, but because it was her and due to her situation, I decided to make it a big deal. Well as I said, shortly after this getaway, things for whatever reason started to go downhill.
On our way back from AC my car was acting weird and would eventually be the starting sign of things to come. Later that week my car clunks out, transmission went. So now I ended up taking public transportation, which was something I thought I would never do again, but hey, you do what you gotta do right. The bad part about this was I just picked up another job a week before we went on our getaway. It was a simple third shift job just to bring in some more money. I'm a workaholic, and I had a game plan and I was working on it to the fullest. So with me now having my car it was hard for me to work all 3 jobs. Outside of that, I had Rita complaining more and more about a number of things. Going through what I was going through at the time could have easily drove a number of people crazy but I relished it as an opportunity to show people how to stay positive in such situations.
My 30-40 minute commute to work by car now turned into a 3 hour commute by bus. My 3rd shift job was literally walking distance from my house but due to my commute time to my other jobs I would eventually have to drop that job. It also took me 3 hours to get to Rita's place as well. Oh yea, she wasn't trying to hear any excuses about us not seeing each other due to me not having my car because, in here eyes, I shouldn't have moved so far away. So on random nights after work I would head to her place. Well some time in October I noticed things are just flat out different with our relationship and I say something about it. Turns out she talking about how we should take a step back and date other people. Of course I'm not trying to hear this, especially after I just spent money I didn't have on that ring to show her how serious I am about our relationship. This really caught me off guard and really pissed me off. She actually was somewhat serious about this and then had the audacity to say she still wanted me to come to her bday party and brunch. I was beside myself to say the least.
Here I am, basically working 12 hour days, out the house at like 6am back in the house at 12am 6 days a week, and now I got this on my plate. After talking about why she felt the way she felt, we came to a decision to try and make it work. Of course most of it once again was on me, but as I say, got to charge it to the game. So mind you I'm paying bills for a place in West Chester I'm continuously at her place trying to keep her happy. I'm still working 2 jobs but not working both as much as I once did due to my transportation issues. I honestly felt like things were crashing before my eyes and there was nothing I could do about it. So when that happens there really isn't any other option but to just pray. So I was heavy in prayer from that point on. Work had its stresses but I never let that get to me, but this relationship with Rita was constantly on my mind and would eventually bring me to a place I thought I would never be in.
To be con't...
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