Here is how it read today.
Mon. July 13
"YOU HAVE LEFT YOUR FIRST LOVE." (REVELATION 2:4 NKJV)
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Mon. July 13
"YOU HAVE LEFT YOUR FIRST LOVE." (REVELATION 2:4 NKJV)
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.What to do when the sizzle fizzles (3)
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The second "R" for renewing your first love is repent; change your mind, direction, and actions. You can't solve a problem with the same thinking and behaviors that created it; new thinking and actions are required. If your relationship once sizzled, you still have what's needed to make it sizzle again. You've been remembering what you were doing at "the height" of the relationship. You've acknowledged that those actions made the relationship exciting and fulfilling, that you stopped doing them, and that you "[left behind] your first love." Now you're ready to repent (which means to turn around) and go back to where you were when the flame of love burned brightly.
The third "R" of renewal is reenact; "Do the things you did first" (Rev 2:5 NIV). List the things you used to do when the relationship was great. Each of you should prayerfully and privately commit to doing a couple of the listed items, without telling your partner which ones you chose. Try to "catch" your partner reenacting "the things you did first" and let them know how much it means to you that they cared enough to do it. You'll get more of what you reinforce by gratitude. But a word to the wise: at first it may feel strange, even unreal, when you begin to reenact those early behaviors. Be patient, that will change. Just keep doing it. And don't wait till you feel like it. You can act your way into new ways of feeling, even when you can't feel your way into new ways of acting. Do it till you feel it, till the joy of your first love reignites!
The second "R" for renewing your first love is repent; change your mind, direction, and actions. You can't solve a problem with the same thinking and behaviors that created it; new thinking and actions are required. If your relationship once sizzled, you still have what's needed to make it sizzle again. You've been remembering what you were doing at "the height" of the relationship. You've acknowledged that those actions made the relationship exciting and fulfilling, that you stopped doing them, and that you "[left behind] your first love." Now you're ready to repent (which means to turn around) and go back to where you were when the flame of love burned brightly.
The third "R" of renewal is reenact; "Do the things you did first" (Rev 2:5 NIV). List the things you used to do when the relationship was great. Each of you should prayerfully and privately commit to doing a couple of the listed items, without telling your partner which ones you chose. Try to "catch" your partner reenacting "the things you did first" and let them know how much it means to you that they cared enough to do it. You'll get more of what you reinforce by gratitude. But a word to the wise: at first it may feel strange, even unreal, when you begin to reenact those early behaviors. Be patient, that will change. Just keep doing it. And don't wait till you feel like it. You can act your way into new ways of feeling, even when you can't feel your way into new ways of acting. Do it till you feel it, till the joy of your first love reignites!
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